You Must Be Thinking of Someone Else

So one thing you always hear about from other parents who have adopted transracially is the strange comments and questions they get about their children. So far, I haven't had too many really bad ones but I had a weird one today. I teach Sunday School at our church and I always teach the pre-k class so naturally I now have siblings of kids I had previously. So today in class is a little guy whose sister I had for the last 2 years. Their grandmother brings them to church and hangs around the room "helping" us out. Today we had a lesson about families and how families are all different and once thing I mentioned is that sometimes families don't always look alike (as K was sitting on my lap at the time) So we finish the lesson and the kids are all eating snack. I am holding K and Grandma comes up and says "I remember when you were pregnant with this one" Huh????? I sort assumed she meant when we were waiting, or "paper pregnant" but no. She looked all surprised and said "Oh is she adopted then?" (I resisted the urge to be snarky and say that she was just on loan to see if it would work out for us) She said "well I haven't seen you for a while and the last time you must have been pregnant" Yeah, except that I have had your granddaughter in my class for the last 2 years and the last time I was pregnant was 5 years ago- I don't know who she has me mixed up with or maybe it is really time to start that diet I've been putting off.

Although one hand I am glad she doesn't seem to hung up on kids matching their parents, on the other hand she knows all 3 of my youngest kids so I have to wonder exactly what she thinks I "do" in my free time


Not matching but totally mine!