to adoptive parents most of all. They hold a message for us all, so why won't we listen. Why can't we accept their stories as their truth instead of attempting to minimize them. Why do we call them names and refer to them as angry or disgruntled or ungrateful or hateful or .... and the list goes on. Why can't we just listen? Why do we find every happy adoptee or first mother story and hold that out as being the "truth" and yet the other side of the story is aberrant- an exception. When do enough voices make us understand this isn't just a couple of people. Or will we always cling to that one voice that doesn't make us question ourselves as the truth- even in the face of overwhelming evidence that adoption is complex and hard and messy.
Sometimes the truths we need to hear are the hardest ones to actually hear. Sometimes we need someone else to inject some truth from beyond our own little world view into our lives to make us better people.
Understanding the emotions, perspectives and circumstances of adult adoptees and first mothers would make us better parents to our children.
It's time to pay attention.
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aaaaand this is why I love you! :-)
Thank you!
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