Another (Not Really) Unbelievable Adoption Story

Remember this story about the undocumented immigrant whose son was adopted while she was in jail?  Or this post about the situation?

The court's initial ruling that her parental rights had be wrongly terminated.  Rather than award custody back to his mother, the courts ordered a new trial.

And this time...

On Wednesday, Missouri Circuit Court Judge David Jones ruled that Bail Romero had abandoned her son and that the Mosers' adoption petition will proceed.

It is unbelievable that the court has ruled against this mother, despite the ruling that her rights were unjustly terminated.  While the records are sealed it appears the crux of the argument is that the adoptive parents are more fit to parent him.

Which leaves me still believing that these words are truer than ever

But in this regard- biology does matter and when we begin to decide, contrary to law, who is fit to parent and who isn't- well it becomes a slippery slope before anyone with a better education, bigger house or larger portfolio can argue they would be the better parent to our children than we are. 

Ethics must be at the forefront of every adoption, and even more so when one party (the adoptive parents) hold significant power over the other (the birthmother) 

Most adoptions don't end like this because most agencies and attorneys are ethical and follow the letter of the law. 

But when people become so desperate that they latch on to anyone promising a baby,

when they look for the quickest way, 

when they ignore obvious warning signs or refuse to do their own due diligence, 

when they believe they are so much more superior that the other person, 

when they believe they have the moral high ground- 

when they make ethics a lessor priority than getting a baby,then the only real loser is the child.

While I certainly sympathize with the adoptive parents- this is not the way. 

Hopefully, this mother will be reunited with her child.